Wow! What a weekend! Greg took Wed, Thurs and Friday off before the three day weekend so we could spend some time together and he could get a much needed vacation from work. Wed. we spent the day packing and preparing and Thursday we headed up to the cabin for Fiona’s first trip there outside of my belly. The vacation started out amazingly well when Fiona rode ALL THE WAY to the cabin awake and NOT CRYING in her car seat…..it was as if she knew the bliss that lied ahead! We got to the cabin Thursday afternoon and leisurely unpacked our things and settled in.
Greg went out for a bike ride to unwind and this was when it hit me…..you know the thing that your mom always used to say and you always ignored…..mothering is a full-time job. (period) It is…there is no way around it. We were on vacation…yes…true….but here I found myself alone, bouncing on a ball with a crying 3.5 month old…hmmmmm…this feels vaguely familiar….my surroundings had changed but what I was tasked with hadn’t. When did I get to go unwind? When could I just decide that I’d like to jump on my bike and leave? I have to admit I was beginning to feel a little irritated…..a little resentful…..and yes…a little sorry for myself. I can’t just sleep in, take it easy, relax. I know….this to shall pass…I’ll be able to do those things again some day….but this was not the way I had planned to start our vacation.
Friday Ellie, Chris and Jackson came up and visited for the day. We went for a lovely walk down the trail and watched baby t.v. for hours. Jackson and Fiona held hands for the first time (and bumped heads….etc. etc.) We decided to go kick the soccer ball around so we took the kids up in their car seats and sat them off to the side. I didn’t have very high hopes that this would last long but amazingly Fiona hung out batting at her toys with both hands for a good hour….not a peep! Here she learned another new trick….if she pushes down on her heels and arches her back she can make a little bridge…AND start to scooch out of her car seat. Ummmmm you are only 3.5 months old little girl! Isn’t it too soon to learn how to escape? And what would you do if you did escape? Roll over on your tummy and scream? Afterwards Chris and Ellie prepared a very delicious salmon dinner before they headed for home. This was the first time we had all hung out together and it went great. Ellie and I wanted Chris and Greg to meet and we were hoping they’d hit it off….but you never want to force those things and it can always be a little weird but everyone had a great time! I’m sure we will be spending plenty of time together in the future as our little darlings grow and learn and enjoy playing with one another more and more.
Saturday was Greg’s Dad’s 71st Birthday so his parents came up to the cabin along with the cousins from up North and the cousins from down South. It was a Par-T! We had a great time enjoying the sunshine and good company. More good food (the theme of the weekend!) and lot’s of folks to hold and stare at our little princess.
Susan, Goren, Olivia and Natalie (the cousins from P-town) stayed sat. night through monday for a little R&R themselves. It was great spending time with them and giving Fiona a chance to hang with her cousins. Natalie (5yrs.old) is in absolute LOVE with Fi and could barely keep her hands off of her. Here we got a taste of what a whole family could be like and I just can’t imagine doing it! Just about the time I would finally get Fiona to start to close her eyes the girls would start to fight or play or a parent would raise their voice. I never thought Fiona would go to sleep! Sunday was cold and rainy so Greg built a fire and we relaxed in the cabin in our p.j.’s for hours! It was really nice…and with the extra baby holders I got a chance to relax myself (though honestly….i can’t relax….i’m always poised and ready to jump into action once the crying starts…even when she’s with someone like Susan who is great with babies and really doesn’t mind the crying…i just can’t relax!…i know, bad mom, bad mom!). Monday we packed and cleaned but still got some sun time on the deck.
Fiona did really well all weekend for being in a foreign place. Naps were hard and she didn’t sleep much throughout the day but we still got solid sleep at night. (she is still sleeping with us….but she sleeps ALL night long with us…I mean she might “wake” a bit to eat a couple of times a night but she doesn’t even fully wake up and not a peep from her….I barely wake up and we both sleep for hours!!! why move a good thing?) Susan was impressed and surprised by this….and a bit relieved after seeing just exactly how hard and loud fiona can cry during the day! We plan on spending a lot of time at the cabin this summer so soon it will be a familiar place for F.
The weekend was really good…it gave us a chance to practice our going out skills and trying our routine somewhere else and with a lot of distractions. I think we did pretty well and Fiona was a trooper. G & I got a chance to talk about subjects from the 2nd paragraph and both left feeling pretty good about our situation and with a plan to give mom and little more freedom.
There were more tries at the bottle still with no success….we thought that the magic of the cabin might do it for her but she isn’t so easily swayed.